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A year ago my wife lost our baby daughter late term. Hardest day of my life and can't imagine what its like for her. Thought I had gotten over things but all the feelings came back this morning. I know I have to be there for my wife and have to handle things at work but honestly I want to go break down and be alone. Any thoughts would be appreciated.
 
I'm very sorry for your loss. I can pray for you both to have a little peace, but I don't have any words of wisdom, other than don't stuff the feelings down. It's not good for you.
 
A year ago my wife lost our baby daughter late term. Hardest day of my life and can't imagine what its like for her. Thought I had gotten over things but all the feelings came back this morning. I know I have to be there for my wife and have to handle things at work but honestly I want to go break down and be alone. Any thoughts would be appreciated.

My little boy was born late term and alive on our living room floor. He didn't survive. I recall that after a few days of being just numb, we called the hospital to see if they kept the baby, that's how off we were. They said yes of course and would we like a service. We said yes and they called us when they were ready. They had him in a pair of blue pajamas. (tears here) and I'm so glad we did that. I'd have called him Jack.

It all takes time but fifteen years later it still gets to me.
 
A year ago my wife lost our baby daughter late term. Hardest day of my life and can't imagine what its like for her. Thought I had gotten over things but all the feelings came back this morning. I know I have to be there for my wife and have to handle things at work but honestly I want to go break down and be alone. Any thoughts would be appreciated.

You should take time for your emotions, do not listen to others who minimize your feelings.
 
My first wife and I lost a late term baby in 1979, her first pregnancy. It was a tough time for us both and especially her. The next pregnancy went fine but there was always thoughts in the back of our minds. It does get easier but it will never go away.
 
You should take time for your emotions, do not listen to others who minimize your feelings.
I appreciate it. Thankfully no one has tried to minimize my feeling. Just dont want the negativity/emptiness to spread to other people. It may be old fashioned but as a husband/step father I have to be the strong one.
 
And strong you are!

Do Not hide from the issue if your wife needs to vent a bit. You both will be glad.
 
I appreciate it. Thankfully no one has tried to minimize my feeling. Just dont want the negativity/emptiness to spread to other people. It may be old fashioned but as a husband/step father I have to be the strong one.
You have to look after yourself and your wife.....feel the feelings. No stuffing them down.

If others have "problems" with your feelings and can't feel sympathy or empathy, that's on them to deal with...you have enough to deal with.
 
Man I hate to hear this, thoughts with yall on this tough day
 
July 12, 2011. That's when we learned that our third child died in utero.

The pain doesn't go away, but it changes. Every year we both still have a tough go on the day.

I pray for your and your wife's peace and comfort.

Don't hesitate to reach out directly if you need to talk. I'll PM you my number.
 
All I would add is that one cannot tend to those in our care unless we take care of ourselves first - not because we're selfish, but because we recognize that we have to be fit to carry out our duty. So find some time for yourself and vent this out (just do not fall into despair). Your wife and those around you can only benefit from your strength if you have it to share.
 
No words man ... your feelings are yours ... same for your wife. Time for each alone of you to grieve may be good ... time together for each other almost may be good ... but some of both likely will help with the emotion and tears in the long run.

Start with a simple loving look ... then a hug with an “I love you” ... and just be there. God bless you both.
 
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You got'em sir. Very sorry for your loss.
 
Sorry for your loss. Never forget the pain associated with the loss of your daughter, it reminds you she (along with your love for her) was and still is very real.

Remember, but also live on for her and the rest of your family. I'm certain that's what she would wish for all of you.
 
Sorry for your loss. My wife had a miscarriage with her first pregnancy at 5 months. It was very difficult at the time and we still talk about it often. The next pregnancy we had twins who are 17 now. We also have a 14 year old daughter. As has been said already, time doesn’t change the grief but it helps.
 
Late to this thread.

For everyone in this thread who lost their child I am sorry you had to experience this. We had two mid term miscarriages which affected my wife more so. I cannot image getting to that point and loosing a child. Blessings for each of you and your spouses.
 
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