Disarmed in your own home?

Since you asked-
You made a hasty call in the moment, the best you could. It’s easy to second guess after the fact. I understand wanting to keep the peace for the sake of your kids.
However, there is also something to be said for not compromising on certain things, particularly in your own home, and letting your kids see it.

Acquiescing to the demands of soft-handed bed-wetters is one of the reasons that mincey little beta males continue to act this way. WE LET THEM.
 
I read the OP to my wife and she immediately said “Well I guess the girls will have to play it the other couples home, the anti gun husband will get tired of that pretty quick and he’ll change his tune”
 
Tarowah said:
I read the OP to my wife and she immediately said “Well I guess the girls will have to play it the other couples home, the anti gun husband will get tired of that pretty quick and he’ll change his tune”
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Haha! That's an interesting view that I hadn't thought of. That may become the reality...
 
Mattyb said:
However, there is also something to be said for not compromising on certain things, particularly in your own home, and letting your kids see it.

Acquiescing to the demands of soft-handed bed-wetters is one of the reasons that mincey little beta males continue to act this way. WE LET THEM.
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I'm not singling you out, @Mattyb , or disagreeing with you on these beta males. A lot of others in this thread have also made it clear that they are the authority in their own home as well. But a hosts' first responsibility is to ensure that his guests are comfortable, and sometimes that means placing their comforts above yours.
 
MostWanted said:
I'm not singling you out, @Mattyb , or disagreeing with you on these beta males. A lot of others in this thread have also made it clear that they are the authority in their own home as well. But a hosts' first responsibility is to ensure that his guests are comfortable, and sometimes that means placing their comforts above yours.
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On many things, I agree with you 100%. On this issue and a handful of others, especially given the manner in which this guy voiced his concern, not so much. We disagree, and that’s OK.
 
MostWanted said:
I'm not singling you out, @Mattyb , or disagreeing with you on these beta males. A lot of others in this thread have also made it clear that they are the authority in their own home as well. But a hosts' first responsibility is to ensure that his guests are comfortable, and sometimes that means placing their comforts above yours.
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So man's FIRST responsibility in his OWN home is to make sure a "guest" is comfortable????????????

I can see it now...... "May I freshen your sweet tea? I will get to those pesky home invaders in a bit:)" Home , hearth, and family was the order I was taught. I'm all for being a nice guy but being a doormat in my home is a good bit past the line of both dignity and decorum.
 
@MostWanted makes an excellent point. It is MostDifficult to do what he suggests... but it is the right thing to do. It doesn't mean the guest gets away with bad behavior, because there will be consequences. It means the Host picks his battles, and he doesn't do battle with someone who is a guest in his home.
 
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DrSideways said:
will get to those pesky home invaders in a bit:)" .
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Those pesky home invaders are not invited guests. Helping keep a guest safe from them would be one very good way to make the invited guests comfortable. The guests gets the fresh sweet tea after the home invaders are neutralized. Emily Post page 793.

You would, of course, do a quicker and better job of neutralizing the invaders if you still had your handgun on you.
 
Step 1, this isn't a discussion to have in front of the children.

Step 2, once in private he'll be asked to leave immediately, and it will be made clear that if he returns to the area my wife and kids are in, he'll be treated as a trespasser AND a threat.

Step 3, provide him the courtesy of an armed escort off my property. Wife/girlfriend/SO and kids can do as they please.
 
I read this to my wife. Her response:

"Tell your girls it is time to make new friends. I wouldn't let my girls go to their house again. He has demonstrated he is unable to control his emotions and you don't know what else he will overreact to. At this point I would fear for the safety of my children around him. He just doesn't have any respect for anyone but himself; do you really want your girls around him?" My wife also said "No one has the right to come into your house and dictate what you can do. I appreciate your wife not wanting to make a scene, but what else will she be willing to accept in your home to avoid making a scene? "

My response: I am not willing to place my family's safety at the whims of whichever lowlife decides my stuff should be his; I am armed because I love my family enough to do whatever it takes to protect them. If you're not that's your business, but not in MY house.
 
Charlie said:
my wife is in a wheel chair and can not move to a safer part of the house on her own
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The wife of the breeder and Shutzhund trainer I got one of my rotties from was wheelchair bound. For some reason they got an inordinate amount of home security sales calls. After stating they've dogs to an insistent salesman, they'd play along to see thier reaction to pulling up to a work dog training area and 28 rotties. :D
and we have very large roaches.
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My wife is with you there
 
I'll add my .02.

I would have been in shock about his tone immediately off the bat. I would ask him to leave and tell him he was not welcome at this residence. Then if he wanted to act crazy and start acting a fool in front of everyone, I would remind him that if his actions did not immediately improve, I would be trespassing him from the property.

His daughters and wife would be welcome at the property, but his actions and lack of self control are an issue that would not be welcome in my house.
 
Anti gun people don't consider all the prohibited users that them and their children come in contact with on a daily basis at nearly every business , public area or event. This doesn't even take into account all the pedophiles ,rapist and snatch and grab criminals that could be around you.
 
I imagine the following was probably true in your case:
A). You were taken completely off guard by the comment
B). You've never experienced quite that type of confrontation.
C). They are a guest in your home and you were trying to be accommodating.

Its super easy to second guess yourself in those situations, and its good that you're doing so, so you'll be better prepared next time.

I probably would have disarmed as well, but would have tried to communicate something like the following during or after the fact:

"I understand your concern, and since you are a guest in my house and were caught off guard by this, I'll be happy to put my gun away if it makes you feel more comfortable.
That said, we are responsible, safe and experienced gun owners in this household, but we carry. Period. The next time you come to my house, I would ask that you bear this
in mind . If you have any questions about my decision to carry a firearm, I'll be happy to explain to try and put your mind at ease."
 
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