Downsizing and Responsibilities

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So my wife and I had a phenomenal getaway, however I came back feeling different about alot of things, which I think are worth sharing.
Don't be burdened by responsibility, we have not taken a vacation in several years. That is a mistake. You need to get away, unplug... I didn't watch the news for almost a week, don't care to now either.

We bought a house 5 years ago that we have done a lot of work to, enjoying it in the process, however it has kept us from enjoying each other... there's always something else to be done, fixed or worked on with a house that is older on 20 acres. I didn't want to pay people to do the work because I wanted to do it and save the money, at a loss of time.

If responsibilities become burdens you need to relieve yourself of them to whatever extent you can. I came home and looked at things in the house completely different. It doesn't serve a purpose or need, it's just clutter and needs to go.

If I died tommorow, I'd be leaving my wife a overwhelming burden to deal with as far as property to maintain and deal with... I think we will be downsizing our property and possessions. Scandinavian Death Cleaning is now a phrase in our house.


Fortunately we both feel the same way since returning.

Don't be burdened.
Do the things you want to do.
If you can't do them, change your course so you can.
 
Very wise and practical perspective.
 
I've thought the same about my class III stuff, It could be a burden to whoever has to clean up after me.
 
Ahh.. So, we're going Minimalist..

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Ha! My wife says the same thing but she is the one who wants to keep stuff because the kids will need it for their new homes "some day."
The only thing I think I need is one of the big roller roller tool chests so I won't have have a dozen tool boxes and shelves of mess.
We're gonna have a hell of a yard sale this summer. Craigslist for the better stuff.
Best stuff I'll post here.
My wife wants to down size the house in the next few years. I said "on a good 10 acres of mostly wooded land so I can hunt in the back yard." :D
 
We sold our oldish, leaky, worn out house last year since it was a good market to unload it "as is" due to the value of the land underneath it. Been renting a comfortable place the past year trying to figure out where to go next, so I don't worry about the house and property for now. I had to abandon the idea of buying some acreage and putting a cabin/house/tent/missile silo on it. Wife said, "Great, we'll get moved out there, you'll die, and I'll be stuck." I actually find myself thinking, and discussing out loud, where the wife would like to live assuming she outlives me, which is likely since I'm six years older. Both our old moms have long outlived our dads. RIP

I subscribe to the post above that you don't own your possessions, they tend to own you.

When we downsized I got rid of a metric crapload of stuff in my shop. I had a LARGE walkout basement. All that stuff is gone now.

The wife boxed up enough superfluous "stuff" to fill the floor of the bonus room in the rental house, and she knows it's on her to do something with it when the time comes. It's been sitting in boxes for a year, not missed. She knows what I would do with it.
 
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