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This isn't much of a thread, I guess just more of a place to vent.

I have friends of all beliefs, backgrounds races and Creed's yet I find that my liberal friends constantly are finding a way to subtly belittle me for resuming my life. I found a place that has a poker game and was excited to tell a friend and was subtly told maybe once the pandemic is over. I'm actively avoided by some because I have resumed going to the gym for my health and immune system.

I'm totally fine with people making their own choices, I respect it. There just seems to be an underlying level of smugness and condescension. Maybe I am being hypersensitive.

Thoughts appreciated. Criticism completely accepted. Not looking for an echo chamber.

Steamy
 
Windini said:
Yep. Some I felt were good friends I now feel certain topics just aren't worth bringing up. Friends you can't talk to; thanks Dems!

Weeding makes for a healthier garden, though, right?
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Indeed, but some of them are very good upstanding religious folk, just, brainwashed it would seem. That's what makes it hard. I'm not overly religious but I know them to be good people.
 
SPST said:
Maybe you are just asking them to do the wrong things? They might hang out with you if you ask them to go riot and loot with you.
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Haha I won't be friends with a leftist, old school liberals fine but not the commies. One of my friends went radical and I havent spoken to him in months.
 
In other undocumented news there was a cool blue lives rally in hickory. Was in front of my gym, I'm not big on social media so it was just a surprise once i got there.
 
Goofyfoot2001 said:
Everyone needs to take their masks off. We all need to be exposed to this virus and the sooner the better.
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Honestly, I've probably been exposed multiple times. Seems to be a blood type issue. Friend with A type just got over it. Family is fine.

Edit: he also thinks it's overstated still and he was quite sick. Bad flu
 
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People are scared, not just for themselves, but for their family. My life never once changed from beginning of epidemic to now, but if I had a young'n with a compromised immune system, I would likely do things differently.

I was doing a survey for a younger fella, explained to me that he worked with mentally disabled people, and it was his passion. In the same breath, told me he wasn't leaving the house until this whole ordeal was over. All I could think was where was his passion for his charges?

This disease has brought out the worst in folks. From the fear mongers that will tell people to stay home and watch their family home go into foreclosure then say "I told you so" when they contract Covid, to the folks that will criticize those that wear a mask, not knowing that person may have lost a parent and a sibling to Covid.

So, I try to be patient. The fear is being pumped into folks and causing all sorts of reactions.
 
premise said:
People are scared, not just for themselves, but for their family. My life never once changed from beginning of epidemic to now, but if I had a young'n with a compromised immune system, I would likely do things differently.

Well I completely understand folks with an issue staying as far away as they can. I try to wear a mask in businesses that require just to be polite of others who may be in that predicament. I just tend to take the most libertarian view of it, make your bed and lie in it. My grandma who is 92 said f it and I had to respect her wishes.

I was doing a survey for a younger fella, explained to me that he worked with mentally disabled people, and it was his passion. In the same breath, told me he wasn't leaving the house until this whole ordeal was over. All I could think was where was his passion for his charges?

This disease has brought out the worst in folks. From the fear mongers that will tell people to stay home and watch their family home go into foreclosure then say "I told you so" when they contract Covid, to the folks that will criticize those that wear a mask, not knowing that person may have lost a parent and a sibling to Covid.

So, I try to be patient. The fear is being pumped into folks and causing all sorts of reactions.
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There are a couple of things you need to remember about all people.

People are really bad at assessing risks.

People are very reluctant to change their minds.

People don’t understand that there are no solutions, only trade-offs.

You have to make and live with your own decisions, but others will not align with your thought processes.
 
If they didn't think they were better than you in some way, they wouldn't be trying to shame you into being more like them.
Seems to be a major difference in the 2 sides right now - "YOU MUST BE MORE LIKE ME" vs "hey, let's see if we can still get by while making our own decisions for ourselves".
 
Ferrisfan said:
There are a couple of things you need to remember about all people.

People are really bad at assessing risks.

People are very reluctant to change their minds.

People don’t understand that there are no solutions, only trade-offs.

You have to make and live with your own decisions, but others will not align with your thought processes.
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That's very thoughtful thank you.
 
I’m sitting Durham right now at my daughters house where I feel like an outsider. I brought my wife over to see the granddaughter and it’s been a shitty weekend! She and her husband both have turned into little commies and just for spite put a LGBT flag in the yard while I was here with BLM, No such thing as an illegal person, and that such trash on it. If it wasn’t for the baby, I’d cut my losses and not come back, and I still might!
 
Hammer21b said:
where I feel like an outsider.
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I hate to hear that.
DrScaryGuy said:
If they didn't think they were better than you in some way, they wouldn't be trying to shame you into being more like them.
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I have a different view on that. I think the vast majority of shamers & guilt vendors know full well how hollow and craven they are. They lack any concept of independence and self reliance, and fear and loathe those that do. These fragile shells fare well enough when they are not actually challenged, many shoring up their delicate self image by becoming petty tyrants and gatekeepers.

When the going, h=//, the thinking! gets tough, they quail first, then herd together, hissing and spitting at anyone less fearful than themselves.

It does not mean they aren't dangerous. Their weakness and fear may drive them to stampede, and the resulting destruction feeds their egotistic need for power, power they must have since it masks their inherent lack of strength.

These are the folks who inspre the cliche' : "with friends like that, who needs enemies?"

We live in interesting times.
 
steamyjungleman said:
This isn't much of a thread, I guess just more of a place to vent.

I have friends of all beliefs, backgrounds races and Creed's yet I find that my liberal friends constantly are finding a way to subtly belittle me for resuming my life. I found a place that has a poker game and was excited to tell a friend and was subtly told maybe once the pandemic is over. I'm actively avoided by some because I have resumed going to the gym for my health and immune system.

I'm totally fine with people making their own choices, I respect it. There just seems to be an underlying level of smugness and condescension. Maybe I am being hypersensitive.

Thoughts appreciated. Criticism completely accepted. Not looking for an echo chamber.

Steamy
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I don't think you are being hyper-sensitive at all.

My favorite cousin recently gave me a text lecture because I sent her pics of some masks I bought, since we're all now supposed to wear them every instant we're alive. She basically said I was dumb for not wearing one all the time. And even brought my late Mom into it.

I've told her all along that if I'm in crowded places I wear one, and I stay away from lots of people, and if I need something from a place that says I have to wear one to go in, I will, but I don't need to be lectured. I am an adult and I will make my own decisions. Period. This is not a real popular stance to take, I recognize that.:rolleyes:

I bought the masks to use. Would I spend $ on something just be cause it has funny/bad language on it? No. But if I'm going to have to wear one, then I feel it's my right to freely wear my feelings on my mask....lol. Today at least, this is still a free country.

People are a-holes. Even the ones we love.

Here endeth my rant.
Carry on.....
 
Goofyfoot2001 said:
Everyone needs to take their masks off. We all need to be exposed to this virus and the sooner the better.
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We all have been exposed. The masks do not prevent that.

Hammer21b said:
If it wasn’t for the baby, I’d cut my losses and not come back, and I still might!
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I would. It bothers me when lib friends become passive-aggressive, like the OP's friends. That's when they demonstrate that they definitely do not want to Coexist, nor do they believe we can all just get along.

Is there a chance, jus' an itty-bitty one, that you said somethin' that triggered them? :D
 
Hammer21b said:
I’m sitting Durham right now at my daughters house where I feel like an outsider. I brought my wife over to see the granddaughter and it’s been a shitty weekend! She and her husband both have turned into little commies and just for spite put a LGBT flag in the yard while I was here with BLM, No such thing as an illegal person, and that such trash on it. If it wasn’t for the baby, I’d cut my losses and not come back, and I still might!
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That sucks. Add an "O" in front of "lives", it'll make you feel better.
 
The definition of a true friend is someone who has your back, no matter what. They watch out for you and ensure you are not in danger. They will never purposely lead you into making decisions that aren't good for you. A true friend will always have your best interest at heart.

Sounds like they are really friends but acquaintances

Friend is a person with whom you share a strong bond. Acquaintance is someone who is known but who is not a close friend
 
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Hammer21b said:
I’m sitting Durham right now at my daughters house where I feel like an outsider. I brought my wife over to see the granddaughter and it’s been a shitty weekend! She and her husband both have turned into little commies and just for spite put a LGBT flag in the yard while I was here with BLM, No such thing as an illegal person, and that such trash on it. If it wasn’t for the baby, I’d cut my losses and not come back, and I still might!
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Lol, wouldn't be surprised if you are in my neighborhood. My condolences.
 
Goofyfoot2001 said:
Everyone needs to take their masks off. We all need to be exposed to this virus and the sooner the better.
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This^, I saw an article about how the disease isn't following seasonal trends, well if we would just let it run it's course instead of delaying the progression of the virus with masks and distancing it probably been forgotten history by now.
 
MacEntyre said:
We all have been exposed. The masks do not prevent that.


I would. It bothers me when lib friends become passive-aggressive, like the OP's friends. That's when they demonstrate that they definitely do not want to Coexist, nor do they believe we can all just get along.

Is there a chance, jus' an itty-bitty one, that you said somethin' that triggered them? :D
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Well, it could have been the nine line shirt that had a us flag on it and said “Just Stand!” but I guess we’ll never know.
 
steamyjungleman said:
This isn't much of a thread, I guess just more of a place to vent.

I have friends of all beliefs, backgrounds races and Creed's yet I find that my liberal friends constantly are finding a way to subtly belittle me for resuming my life. I found a place that has a poker game and was excited to tell a friend and was subtly told maybe once the pandemic is over. I'm actively avoided by some because I have resumed going to the gym for my health and immune system.

I'm totally fine with people making their own choices, I respect it. There just seems to be an underlying level of smugness and condescension. Maybe I am being hypersensitive.

Thoughts appreciated. Criticism completely accepted. Not looking for an echo chamber.

Steamy
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We'll have to get together and make some noise soon.
My work hours should decrease by about 1/3 after this week, so maybe we can make some plans. Hopefully I can crank up the smoker.
Hang in there old buddy.
 
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