Prayers or thoughts if your not into it

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I have no personal experience that can guide you Green Heron. I have friends and neighbors that have or are going through similar problems. All I would suggest is to give you the advice my Mom gave me before I was married. She said be nice. There are going to be times you two don't like each other very much, but just be nice. I would suggest the same with your daughter. Maybe you can't live together, and just because she is your daughter doesn't mean you have to approve or support her lifestyle choices. But you can be nice. Send her birthday cards and Christmas cards. Send her a note once in a while to let her know you are a round and care. Other than that she is an adult and will go where she goes now. And lastly, don't let that one big problem create any more problems. Hang on to the others in your life, and be thankful for them.

I'll save my thoughts on the public school systems and university systems culpability in many of these issues. My oldest is 16 and I fight the battle everyday as well as I am able. Our culture sure is a mess right now and not any single person's fight is going to change it.
 
wolfpack65 said:
Just saw this thread and I can sympathize with some of what you are going through.

I'm new here and I don't know a lot of you guys except some that crossed over from the other site I posted on.

I'm going through a similar thing with my daughter.
Seems like her "wires have been crossed" since she was born.
Rebellious, no form of punishment or reward seemed to work with her.
2 kids out of wedlock and with someone of different color (not sure how to say that and not offend anyone...), yet I still tried my best to help her & her family.
The dad is a deadbeat, has not paid any child support in 8yrs (thankfully they went different ways 7yr ago after he became abusive), and has nothing to do with those little boys.
She ended up with another deadbeat/freeloader/abuser.
And, from that and those situations, gone now to a relationship with another woman.

I love my daughter and I have supported my daughter the last 10yr - financially as well, but what she is doing now, goes against every grain in my body.
I'm trying to accept this, what she has chose as a way of life, to not be a hypocrite and say it's OK as long as it's not my child or to say that as long as they are happy, I'm happy.
It is very hard and I can't say that right now.
I love her because she's my daughter, but I just can't accept this right now.

I'm not free of sin either, no one is, and I have my faults as well.
I will pray for you and your family.

I don't know most of y'all but I just aired my dirty laundry with you. :eek:
Maybe it will help me to know that someone else is going through something similar and we can understand or try to understand together...
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Posts like this are how this place, and the others before it, got to be not only community, but family, in spite of so many of us just being "fake internet friends". Many of us with kids who have passed into adulthood, such as it is, have at least one offspring who has pushed us to the ragged edge, and beyond.

We do all we can do, and that is all we can do.
 
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Hey Joe,
I just saw this myself. I know it's two months late, but I just sent a word up for you and yours Brother. Remember, HE won't put anything on us that HE knows we can't handle! You've got this. Just keep looking up and the answers will come.
 
fieldgrade said:
Posts like this are how this place, and the others before it, got to be not only community, but family, in spite of so many of us just being "fake internet friends". Many of us with kids who have passed into adulthood, such as it is, have at least one offspring who has pushed us to the ragged edge, and beyond.

We do all we can do, and that is all we can do.
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Exactly.
 
2 Timothy 3:1-7

1 This know also, that in the last days perilous times shall come.

2 For men shall be lovers of their own selves, covetous, boasters, proud, blasphemers, disobedient to parents, unthankful, unholy,

3 Without natural affection, trucebreakers, false accusers, incontinent, fierce, despisers of those that are good,

4 Traitors, heady, highminded, lovers of pleasures more than lovers of God;

5 Having a form of godliness, but denying the power thereof: from such turn away.

6 For of this sort are they which creep into houses, and lead captive silly women laden with sins, led away with divers lusts,

7 Ever learning, and never able to come to the knowledge of the truth.


John 16:33

In the world ye shall have tribulation: but be of good cheer; I have overcome the world.

I'm praying for you. God Bless.
 
I have no experience being a parent but I can relate to her being angry with God after the loss of a loved one. When I was 15 the man who taught me how to fish/hunt/be a man had his face blown off by a crack head while serving a warrent. After the numbness/sadness finally wore off I stayed angry and somewhat self destructive for years and hated God with all my heart. Life slapped me in the face and I finally grew out of the stupid/self destructive phase but the anger remains--not so much at God but at life in general. I have found the best way to stave it off is to hike/burn off energy. I am more greatful than I can express that my parents kept loving me and I credit their love with saving me. I don't know where I am really going with this other than you and her both are in my thoughts and prayers. Best thinkg I can suggest is both of you find a catharsis be it eating peyote/hiking the AT/a good church.
 
Brother, I don't have poetic words of enlightenment, I don't have the cure, and I am not the one that knows all. But keep in mind that we as Christians are in the valley, that this is not our home, this is the journey to get there.
Isaiah 44:10
Fear not, for I am with you; be not dismayed, for I am your God; I will strengthen you, I will help you, I will uphold you with my righteous right hand.

Keep in mind this promise of our God.
 
Joe, what I'm seeing in her, is a soul in transition. She is learning how to deal with her life by justifying her actions to herself from what she's knows so far. Be proud of her for that. Many people "accept" without knowing anything but that its "the right thing to do" while others prove why it is the right thing to themselves. You will find that her foundation has caused this and its a good way to go. Either way is a good way, but knowing is much better than assuming from historical fact. Give her space by understanding that she is still learning and that she is no longer a little girl. ( The thought of which probably makes her fume, when she feels she's being attacked and not respected for who she is now). Listen, understand, and then smile. The smile that dads smile when they see their offspring learning. Temper all questions to her with understanding and respect. You were in her shoes once. She's not lost, just feeling her way with caution. She's not a bad kid. I know her dad ;)
 
I know your pain.
I too have a rebellious daughter.
She has set out to destroy her marriage.
So mad at me she won't talk,call or visit anymore.
She lives five minutes away.
Sometimes all you can do is pray.
I'll be adding you and yours to my prayers
God's got this
 
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