Prepare wife before "going away" for a while

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Besides things like firearm proficiency and describing some general usage of supplies, how would you prepare your wife if you were going away for 6-12mths?
 
Show her the labeled switches in your electrical panels for various things in the home, the water cutoff valves, prepare a list of phone numbers of people that YOU can trust and also know will respond if she calls them for help.

Thanks for starting this thread as I'm sure there's gonna be some great answers posted here.
 
I have been gone from the house for up to 3 months at a time.
The old lady does fine.


but there was never any real problems that occured. I'm sure she'd be ok though.
 
It honestly depends on the wife and what she's capable of/has experience with.

For some simply giving them a list of phone numbers of people you trust to come to her aid in an emergency might be sufficient (give them her number and introduce them if she they haven't met too). This would be my wife now. When we first met it would have been a helluva lot more.

For others you may need to make detailed lists of what to do and as Brangus said label the switches etc.

You may need to also make a list of bills that need to be paid and how to pay them.

Make sure she has a list with all the passwords to accounts etc.

As catfish said you may need a lawn service too.
 
Brangus said:
Show her the labeled switches in your electrical panels for various things in the home, the water cutoff valves, prepare a list of phone numbers of people that YOU can trust and also know will respond if she calls them for help.

Thanks for starting this thread as I'm sure there's gonna be some great answers posted here.
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Great start. Add the natural gas valve if applicable.

Login/passwords for anything financial/medical that she might need access to.
 
Chdamn said:
It honestly depends on the wife and what she's capable of/has experience with.

For some simply giving them a list of phone numbers of people you trust to come to her aid in an emergency might be sufficient (give them her number and introduce them if she they haven't met too). This would be my wife now. When we first met it would have been a helluva lot more.

For others you may need to make detailed lists of what to do and as Brangus said label the switches etc.

You may need to also make a list of bills that need to be paid and how to pay them.

Make sure she has a list with all the passwords to accounts etc.

As catfish said you may need a lawn service too.
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Shakes tiny fist for beating me to it. ;)
 
Really only you and her know. Mine was fine before me, spent most of the first two years of our marriage without me. She manages pretty ok, already has a power of attorney for financial stuff.

I'd check the car over well so some service station didn't get to bs her about tires/brakes/susp when she had the oil changed. And put all the bills on auto pay. That'd probably do. Oh and probably buy a cheap riding mower cause my '63 is finicky.

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drypowder said:
Leave her a supply of condoms so that you don't catch anything when you return. ;)
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Weren't paying attention were you? Catfish already addressed that issue.


Catfish said:
Considering all the things my wife needs mee for I would Re-up her AAA membership, hire a lawn service and buy her a Costco-sized box of AA batteries.
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The batteries were for bob. Battery operated boyfriend.
 
I have to ask, was whatever you got a 6-12 month sentence for worth it?

Just remember, a good friend will come bail you out. A great friend will be sitting next to you in the lockup saying, "That was fun!"

On a serious note, showing her the things she can handle if she's only shown how, who she can trust for the things that are truly out of her league and Power of Attorney have already been covered.
 
If you have cats, give them away. Before you leave, so you can deal with her grief while you're still here, instead of 1000s of miles away...
Ask me how I know...

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List of people she can trust for help when she can’t handle things

How to post on the forum for advice
 
IrishCannon said:
...how would you prepare your wife if you were going away for 6-12mths?
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Tell her I love her before I leave...that's all.

Could be, that when I walk out the door, I am going away for good. Same holds true for her and all the rest of yall on here. Not trying to be morbid, but that's reality.

I've tried to show her and both my kids all I know....how to do stuff around the house, how to fix stuff when it breaks and who to call if you can't fix it, routine maintenance on the vehicles, etc. I need to know they can handle sh*t if I'm not there to handle it. Can they be prepared to handle everything/every situation? No; hell...none of us can, but we can and we should share every bit of knowledge we have with our tribe. We owe it to them.
 
As long as she has internet access my wife will be fine. I was on a out-of-state hunting trip one time and the heat went out in the pump house and a pipe froze on the water pump. She got online, looked at a bunch of youtube videos, went to one of the big box hardware stores, bought what was needed and repaired it herself. No big deal. :cool:
 
Downeast said:
As long as she has internet access my wife will be fine. I was on a out-of-state hunting trip one time and the heat went out in the pump house and a pipe froze on the water pump. She got online, looked at a bunch of youtube videos, went to one of the big box hardware stores, bought what was needed and repaired it herself. No big deal. :cool:
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A keeper you have there sir. :)
 
True story.

Fly Charlotte to Austin for a week long meeting. When I land the phone blows up, dog is missing. Do everything possible over the phone, only solution is to get on the next flight home. Get home in the middle of the night, girls crying and all that, go out back, whistle a couple times and the dog comes running up from the creek where she has obviously been playing all day with something dead. 4 hours later I’m on a plane to Austin.

So, shoot the dog before you go, or give it away if you’re a gentle soul.
 
My wife carries & shoots & has all the necessary info to carry on operations in my absence. Aside from that, she was an Army medic for 6 years & is pretty good at figuring shit out for herself.
 
All good ideas but shouldn't we have already prepared her for doing without us?? We never know which morning we aren't going wake up.... Mass education, all at one time one time will have 50% loss rate, gradual education over time will last much longer...
And you know what?? TODAY is a great day to start.....Tomorrow is guaranteed to no one...
 
Bailey Boat said:
All good ideas but shouldn't we have already prepared her for doing without us?? We never know which morning we aren't going wake up.... Mass education, all at one time one time will have 50% loss rate, gradual education over time will last much longer...
And you know what?? TODAY is a great day to start.....Tomorrow is guaranteed to no one...
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This^^^

Shari is up to speed on everything she needs to do/have/make happen if/when I'm gone for an extended period. Spent a good portion of last summer in Harrisonburg, VA, and she did just fine.


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Bailey Boat said:
All good ideas but shouldn't we have already prepared her for doing without us?? We never know which morning we aren't going wake up.... Mass education, all at one time one time will have 50% loss rate, gradual education over time will last much longer...
And you know what?? TODAY is a great day to start.....Tomorrow is guaranteed to no one...
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That's what I've been doing for the past 10 years. I've been training her to survive without me. Who knows when your called back to the home above. Every situation is different. It may be SHTF, or it may just be our time to go. I try and pass all my knowledge onto my wife and kids/grandkids. Wife is a pretty smart lady. As long as she can google it, I think she can handle most anything home related.
 
A flashlight in each room, caned food, water, a mean ugly dog, a safe place to hide and defend.

A good alarm system.

A set of car keys,hidden out side, a get away bag with a gun.
 
My mom has a medic alert necklace thing in case she falls and can't get up...

Can they be used as a backup oh shit button on top of an alarm system if someone is kicking in the door? Do they respond fast enough and will they call 911 for you for non medical emergencies?
 
Updated will and POA, numbers to all the emergency specialists (HVAC, plumber, mechanic, etc.), a sealed don't-open-unless-in-emergency envelope with some hefty cash.
 
Good scrubbing and a light dusting of cornstarch before returning to the plastic box?
 
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