Run out of wiggle room

Awesome sir. And please take what I'm about to suggest as well-intended advice...……...As you are starting this next venture be sure that you take the necessary measures to take extremely good care of your feet in every single decision you make to include buying the very best footwear possible. This will make every area of your life much better especially while you're at work interacting with people. You'll deal with fatigue much better and your recovery from a day at work will be much smoother so you can return without the pain, discomfort, and other issues that can surface with people that are on their feet for hours a day. I speak from many long years of experience on this. Podiatry foot problems are NOT what you want to face later in life.

Wishing you the best going forward on this and it's good knowing that things are turning in a new direction for you.

Im going to look for some more kindly boots I think. I figure police boots might be a good place to start since they're meant for much foot time.

For now I found my other more cushioned insoles.
 
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Hey man sometimes life leaves you with no choices. I've been fortunate in that so many good people have lent me a hand and given me enough help to make it through this without having to sell my organs or something. Thought I was going to have to find a wig and a dress and head down to Bragg Boulevard or something.....

Hey man, I'm not gay, but $5 is 5 dollars....and 50-60hour work weeks? I remember my first part time job.

In all seriousness though, happy to hear you hit the inflection point and things are turning around. Attitude, is everything in life my friend. I'm just coming out of a place of unbridled suck myself, but in a different way as I never had to bottom out like it sounds you did. But to be harsh, and real, as it sounds you have admitted to owing much of this to yourself and life choices. Don't get me wrong, there's times, days, even multiple days where I allow myself to make things more miserable than they already are by relishing in the injustice or swearing the universe must be out to get me. But most of the time, I just tell tat part of myself to STFU, assess the situation, assess the options that lead to various desirable endpoints and begin taking steps toward that with, hopefully, realistic expectations and timelines. I'm a geneticist, not a psychiatrist, so my advise is as empty and subjective as the next guy, but it sounds like you allow the bad things in life to permeate you and weight you down, rather than using them as a source of motivation to move forward.

It sounds like you have had tremendous supports from the good folks on here, it may be in poor taste to then speak negatively, finding all those things that are wrong with the new job or new expenses etc, when they have been praying and thinking about you for months hoping for you to get a job. Just go in and CRUSH that $%!t. Worked 50 hours already and someone is taking off next week?? be THE FIRST person to volunteer to fill in and maintain continuity of service. As a manager I can tell you those are the folks who stand out. The ones who are reliable and always there when others fall short.

I got laid off from a job in 2016. In that job I had been promoted 3 times in 4 years. I sulked for few days, my wife got nervous, and I told her 'nothing to be nervous about. now I have all that time and energy and find a BETTER opportunity'. I was still in grad school (worked full time and went to grad school full time). Within 6 weeks I was consulting for a global biotech company, within 15 weeks I was consulting, hired for full time/w2 work and major US lab and continuing school. It was absolutely nuts. Heart palpitations, high blood pressure, anxiety, restlessness was all constant, but it was an investment. a sacrifice now for better times later. Did I let ANY of the 3 down? nope. Admittedly my relationship with wife could have been a little better, but she tried to remain supportive, knowing full well it was worse for me than her. When it was all over I felt much healthier as time went on and my weeks went from 80 to 50-55 hours. eventually working only the one job when promoted to manager in order to make the commitments needed to my team. those were still 50-60 hour weeks. It used to be my job was the only one I had to do or care about. Then all of a sudden I had the responsibility of 5 other peoples jobs. ambitious scientists, hungry college recruits, young families...my wife wondered when the late nights and stress would ever end? when my baby was born I can't count how many times I got home from work and she was already asleep man. it hurt deep in the soul. I didn't 'expect' that of being a manager. I thought I would put my feet up on the desk, have interns get me coffee, and have an army to do my work for me. Wake up call for me that was. Then there was immediate family life, the house, extended family, weddings, funerals, everything wants to get in the way. Then the wife gets laid off, and next thing you know your laying off your pregnant nanny cutting out all of your lifestyle expenses, sharing a car, blah blah blah. But hey, that's when we got to say %^ it!, lets finally get out of here. I quit my job picked up some clients for consulting and we left. Did that go soothly? HELLLL NO. tens of thousands of dollars in permitting parts of the house, building inspector and tax dept shake downs, a dead real estate economy (where I came from anyway) selling your house for less than you paid, blah blah blah. get down here living in empty apartment while our moving company takes 2 weeks to bring us our stuff. not 2 days after it gets here we are on our way back to attend the funeral of my dead 25 year old cousin. kid and dogs are all out of sorts because we just uprooted their life and then confusing the hell out of them going back...Being an adult SUCKS. end of story. But you choose whether it just sucks, or if its miserable.


...We are FINALLY almost all settled in here now for phase 1 (apartment life). In the next few months we should be completely flush again once wife picks up work and then we will be moving into a house. we are fortunate enough when at full economic capacity to afford the luxury of not doing things we are not skilled at our selves and instead paying professionals. If you find yourself in an unemployed situation again, please PM me or post here with a list of your skills and I will make sure you are the first person I call if your skill aligns with the needs of the work. In the meantime, CONGRATS on the job you now have and the changing trajectory of your situation. Just keep that head up and pivot that attitude toward conquering fundamental problems that can right your course than on what's wrong with the things that are going right.

All the best to you buddy!
 
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Well just as my feet were getting used to the miles (see Pic) I slid down a slope in the yard and bent most of my left foot toes backwards and twisted my knee. Suffice to say today has been a bit tender.

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Job seems to suit me though!
 
Just think, some folks pay a gym membership to walk that far on a treadmill. You're getting paid to workout!;)o_O

Amusingly enough I was about to sign up for a gym but decided to wait until after the new years resolutions rush
 
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