When it's harder to "love your neighbor"...

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I find it's getting much easier these days to dislike (if not outright hate) the average person on the street (and certainly on the road)...

An excerpt from a book I've read several times by C.S. Lewis.

The rule for all of us is perfectly simple. Do not waste time bothering whether you ‘love’ your neighbour; act as if you did. As soon as we do this we find one of the great secrets. When you are behaving as if you loved someone, you will presently come to love him. If you injure someone you dislike, you will find yourself disliking him more. If you do him a good turn, you will find yourself disliking him less. There is, indeed, one exception. If you do him a good turn, not to please God and obey the law of charity, but to show him what a fine forgiving chap you are, and to put him in your debt, and then sit down to wait for his ‘gratitude’, you will probably be disappointed. (People are not fools: they have a very quick eye for anything like showing off, or patronage.) But whenever we do good to another self, just because it is a self, made (like us) by God, and desiring its own happiness as we desire ours, we shall have learned to love it a little more or, at least, to dislike it less.

From Mere Christianity

side note - This book is actually a series of radio addresses by C.S. Lewis broadcast during wartime England in the 1940's.
 
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Tell them about your "Special Sauce".
I say Hello to my neighbors and wave when I see them, but only have one I'll walk over to talk with.
 
Ya'lls neighbor outlook is much different from mine. I don't want to be friends, I don't want to come over for burgers, I don't want you borrowing my crap. I do want you to leave me alone, don't come over for a beer don't ask to borrow anything I own.
I am a very good neighbor, I don't screw with you or your stuff and I demand that you do the same.
If I see you outside I'll smile and wave, you don't have to wave back, that's okay, I'll live.....
 
Tell them about your "Special Sauce".

I'm moving 30 minutes away at the end of the year, and after spending five years planning to barbecue the current neighbors if the S hits the F, I figured I'd start off with a fresh new attitude with the new neighbors.
 
I'm moving 30 minutes away at the end of the year, and after spending five years planning to barbecue the current neighbors if the S hits the F, I figured I'd start off with a fresh new attitude with the new neighbors.

Why?? What do you want from them?? What are you willing to give them?? The more you try to be the "nice guy" the deeper they get their hooks.
Next thing you know their borrowing all your crap and then YOU have to go get it back when YOU want to use it, only to be told they don't have it and never borrowed it. Be the PERFECT neighbor, mind your own business and leave the neighbors alone. You are NOT their friend, YOU are the new meat on the block...
 
How about neighbors that called the county on me because I put boulders in my yard (in the easement) that prevents them from backing onto my lawn. The inspector came out and said: you really have some doozies around here, someone turned you in for having boulders in the easement. My reply was i will move the boulders if necessary, his reply was: “works for me, l got more important work to worry about this”.
 
How about neighbors that called the county on me because I put boulders in my yard (in the easement) that prevents them from backing onto my lawn. The inspector came out and said: you really have some doozies around here, someone turned you in for having boulders in the easement. My reply was i will move the boulders if necessary, his reply was: “works for me, l got more important work to worry about this”.


Simple solution is to move the boulders and replace them with boards with nails in them buried just below the surface so they will find them if they back onto your lawn. Be sure to position them so you don't hit them when you mow.
 
Yea, uh, I don't think that's what C.S. Lewis meant.

I think some here may have missed you your neighbor is. Jesus was asked that question and the answer isn't just the guy who lives beside you.

Correct answer
 
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Ya'lls neighbor outlook is much different from mine. I don't want to be friends, I don't want to come over for burgers, I don't want you borrowing my crap. I do want you to leave me alone, don't come over for a beer don't ask to borrow anything I own.
I am a very good neighbor, I don't screw with you or your stuff and I demand that you do the same.
If I see you outside I'll smile and wave, you don't have to wave back, that's okay, I'll live.....
Have any opening near your house. You sound like the perfect neighbor. Don’t reply back I really don’t want to hear it.
 
I could jump right in here and really make this thread lively with the thread title and all, but I wouldn't do that to you Ash.:D. Besides, I know we're in the Chapel.
 
I have never figure out how people live in the neighborhoods where the houses are 20 feet apart..

For some of us we did not start there.

When we got our 6 ac lot, therewas 117 on one side and 400 on the other. The 117 was lumbered and now 30 houses are coming... F me sideways...
 
Neighbors are like snakes: If I see you and you are in your area, all is good. You come sneaking around a getting my area, stuff going to get real, fast.
 
You think I am hard on my neighbors, you should see how I treat some of my family...

There's actually video proof of it. Lol.:D

 
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I could jump right in here and really make this thread lively with the thread title and all, but I wouldn't do that to you Ash.:D. Besides, I know we're in the Chapel.

What, are large bottomed girls not allowed in the Chapel? :p
 
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C.S. Lewis was a wise man, but I'm going to guess he didn't have neighbors that mowed their trash then blew it into his woods. Or stole gas cans out of the shed and set the woods on fire. Or shot his beagle on his own property. Or erected a barbed wire fence 10 feet over onto his property line.

It's a beautiful sentiment, and I want to be a nice guy, really. But people don't make it easy to like people.
 
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