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DirtySCREW

DirtySCREW

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I don't even know where to start. Maybe this is just a "venting ". But I ask for prayer for me. And I ask prayer for my mama.
My step dad passed away on St Patrick's day 2020, just over a year ago.
I've helped mama and helped mama. I've helped her move to NC from SC. Helped her with buying a house, explaining things and basically dealing with everything.....same thing with selling SC house.
I'm doing everything I know how to do to make her happy....taken care of...but it just seems its not enough.
I can't bring my step dad back. I miss him too. She is depressed a lot...won't seek counseling or therapy...or talk to a preacher etc.
Pray for her. Pray for me. Pray that she sees everything I do.
No matter how much I do...it just seems its not enough...or just not appreciated. She says she knows how much I do....but I really wonder.

I'm sorry for my rant....just pray for me. Pray the Holy Spirit strengthens me and her.

DS
 
Prayers for you and your mother as you both navigate the coming days.
 
Prayers for you and your Mom.

Come talk to us anytime, you know we are here for you.
 
Prayers for guidance and help.
 
When my brother died, nobody could say anything to mom. No matter what we did to help, it was wrong and she was mad.
She wasn't mad at us though. We knew it, but we had to keep reminding ourselves of that no matter what she said to us.
There are still some moments where it gets her, especially around his birthday and the anniversary of his death.

But remember that she put up with you all through your childhood and your teens... I know it's hard to cut her slack because we expect adults to act like adults, but try. Grief is harder on some than others.
 
Best wishes to both of you. Grief strikes some much harder than others. Seems some of my oldest relatives had the hardest time getting past feeling alone. A lonely person may just need your presence, more than anything.
 
Maybe its time to stop coddling her. Then she may learn to appreciate you and snap out of her depression by doing more for herself while it keeps her active. The less people have to accomplish the more they sit and become depressed. Just a thought not knowing her physical condition.
 
Prayers for you and her. Kinda sorta been there, am there now. Holler if you want to vent some more.
 
I understand exactly what you are going though. My Mother was like that until the day she passed. There was nothing I could do to make her happy. My Father had dementia and he was in a nursing home until he passed. I just realized that I did all I could have for both of them and after awhile I just let it go. You will eat yourself up inside trying to fix what you can't.
 
DirtySCREW said:
I don't even know where to start. Maybe this is just a "venting ". But I ask for prayer for me. And I ask prayer for my mama.
My step dad passed away on St Patrick's day 2020, just over a year ago.
I've helped mama and helped mama. I've helped her move to NC from SC. Helped her with buying a house, explaining things and basically dealing with everything.....same thing with selling SC house.
I'm doing everything I know how to do to make her happy....taken care of...but it just seems its not enough.
I can't bring my step dad back. I miss him too. She is depressed a lot...won't seek counseling or therapy...or talk to a preacher etc.
Pray for her. Pray for me. Pray that she sees everything I do.
No matter how much I do...it just seems its not enough...or just not appreciated. She says she knows how much I do....but I really wonder.

I'm sorry for my rant....just pray for me. Pray the Holy Spirit strengthens me and her.

DS
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I am going to honor your request for prayer. Then I am going to hit you with a cold hard reality. If you are any kind of man/son you are never going to feel like you did enuff. My mother God rest her soul would constantly tell her friends what good sons she had and how much me and my brother did for her. Funny thing is I never felt like I did enuff. No matter how often I saw her or what I did for her I never thought it was enuff. You probably won't either. The good news is, that's the way it is supposed to be.

Just do what you can and pray when you can and ask for prayers from others. It is all part of the plan. But it is not our plan so it won't be like we think it should.
 
Sorry for the loss of your step-dad. You are taking care of a parent . Your are a good son. There are a lot of people this day and time who do not care about their parents. I commend you on what you are doing. I pray things will get better.
 
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My mom lived with us for about 2 years after she moved to NC from AZ. Even then she did not move until about 2 years after my step-father passed.
She eventually moved to a senior living apartment because she still felt like she had to have her own space. However, it was a darn good thing she spent time with use. She had a serious medical issue while she was with us that could have killed her if she had been alone.
My wife still helps her with appointments from time to time. She has some awesome senior friends from church that keep her from being isolated.

Prayers up that your mom finds her way out of the darkness.`
 
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