Best HG training for a complete noob Female scared of guns in Charlotte?

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My wife needs to carry a handgun. i say complete noob, but that’s only 99% accurate. She’s fired a pistol of mine when we dated, and has been around guns growing up but not actively participating.
She‘s scared of guns I would say. Who in the Charlotte area has the best training for such an individual in your opinion.
 
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Find yourself a range that does "a girl and a gun" or some similar ladies event, take her and one of her girlfriends, pay the fee for them, then go read news somewhere else and stay the heck out of the way.
Don't try teaching her yourself.
women will learn more in 1 magazine from a neutral instructor than they will in multiple range trips from their significant other.
 
Combat Diver said:
Get a airsoft BB gun and go over gun safety in the comfort of home. Then take her to the range with a .22LR pistol.

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"oh, you think i'm stupid and i need to start with a toy?" yup, heard that one before.
 
Feeling the recoil, unexpectedly, will either make her go, “wow, this is cool” or scare her off completely. The air soft lets you practice snd learn the mechanics that will improve the experience.
 
Check into charlotte rifle and pistol club. They do general handgun familiarization classes often and have an active women-only training and shooting group tailored for your wife.
 
Check with Fortitude Consulting. Gil is good and safe with lots of experience with new shooters as well experienced. Like Catfish said CR-PC has a women on target program.
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Cowboy said:
Not everyone needs to carry a gun. Maybe try some Less than lethal options first.
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I'm not saying @Cowboy is right or wrong, but this is where my wife and I are at. She won't commit herself to becoming proficient or learning to carry effectively. If she carried a gun it would be more of a liability than anything. We have agreed together that this is the case.

If the will to learn isn't there you're going to have a rough time. I wish OP the best of luck.
 
Wife refused to carry or shoot a gun. Strongly encouraged her to understand the mechanics of a firearm and to take a few lessons, to get at least comfortable with the proper use of a firearm - in the case, in an emergency, I am incapacitated and she needs to use a firearm to protect herself and the family. She agreed - and while she doesn't approve of firearms, does go shooting with me occasionally to keep her aware of how to shoot.
 
My wife says that if she carried a gun she would be going full on Medea in the McDonald's parking lot.
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Wife refused to carry or shoot a gun. Strongly encouraged her to understand the mechanics of a firearm and to take a few lessons, to get at least comfortable with the proper use of a firearm - in the case, in an emergency, I am incapacitated and she needs to use a firearm to protect herself and the family. She agreed - and while she doesn't approve of firearms, does go shooting with me occasionally to keep her aware of how to shoot.
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backbonz said:
My wife needs to carry a handgun. i say complete noob, but that’s only 99% accurate. She’s fired a pistol of mine when we dated, and has been around guns growing up but not actively participating.
She‘s scared of guns I would say. Who in the Charlotte area has the best training for such an individual in your opinion.
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@VOD Tactical

Frank at VOD Tactical does a lot of training with women. His demeanor and presence is very calming and without the macho BS you might get elsewhere.
 
DrScaryGuy said:
"oh, you think i'm stupid and i need to start with a toy?" yup, heard that one before.
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I'd buy it, or a gas pellet gun, and some sort of reactive target, for me and after a week or two of shooting it all the time ask her if she'd like to try it.

@backbonz if it's not her idea that she carry a gun you have a long way to go. Good luck with it, suggest lots of patience and subtlety.
 
I’d recommend finding a female instructor.
 
backbonz said:
My wife needs to carry a handgun. i say complete noob, but that’s only 99% accurate. She’s fired a pistol of mine when we dated, and has been around guns growing up but not actively participating.
She‘s scared of guns I would say. Who in the Charlotte area has the best training for such an individual in your opinion.
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Stick Man said:
Message incoming.

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BatteryOaksBilly said:
Contact @Stick Man ....your problem will be solved.
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If @Stick Man (and his better half) aren’t free, let me know. Or I could even join y’all.

We’ll shoot a bunch of suppressed 22 to avoid the noise. Then some unsuppressed. Couple hours of good times up at PHA.

Did that twice in the last couple weeks for two ladies about to take the concealed carry class.
 
Friday said:
Who determined this?

I'm gettin' two vibes here-
The wife doesn't want any part of this
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this thread has the feel that even after all the answers/attempted help, you'll never hear from the op again.
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I messaged him and that was the very first thing I asked...., "does she want to learn and be able to carry?"
I never got any response at all.
 
DrScaryGuy said:
Find yourself a range that does "a girl and a gun" or some similar ladies event, take her and one of her girlfriends, pay the fee for them, then go read news somewhere else and stay the heck out of the way.
Don't try teaching her yourself.
women will learn more in 1 magazine from a neutral instructor than they will in multiple range trips from their significant other.
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Seconded. My wife has her ladies event on the 19th. ^This was exactly my thought process.
 
Agree airsoft or co2 pistol good way to get the basics safety, grip, etc. even less expensive then .22lr ammo these days. Move to .22lr next steps when she is comfortable with it.
 
Thanks for the replies. I’m still here...lol.
(ed: guys, sorry for ghosting after asking this question. I quit my job Friday, and I’ve been busy this week. I was on a fishing trip all day Saturday, got home at 9:30pm, my wife informs me that my daughter pointed out a man in a car appeared to be taking pictures of them while they were parked waiting for curbside food delivery. That, and some other recent events led me to post this in haste.)

My wife has had some strange run ins lately, and has feared for her safety.
Does she need to carry? I dont know. I’m certainly not going to force the issue.
I think the ladies night at Blackstone might be the best option. Nice place (that would go a long way in her comfort), and it’s close to home.

Like I said..I’m certainly not going to force it. And don’t worry...I certainly won’t be the one trying to teach her anything!

Someone mentioned that she needs a female instructor. Might sound weird, but she has always preferred learning from men vs women...shes sexist in that regard.
 
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My wife learned to shoot on a pistol in a indoor firing range I bought her after a frightening event in a parking lot at the mall, ( 2 guys followed her to the car at Christmas she had both our small kids with her at the time and just did get everyone on the car and locked in.) Drove off laying on the horn for help.
That was 30 years ago she is still scared of guns as of today. She wants us protected by them and expects me to carry all the time. She has a Home Defense Pump Shotgun she feels safer with than a handgun.
I assume she feels someone could strip the handgun from her and the shotgun would keep them at a safer distance.
Don't get me wrong she would in fear shoot no doubt.
Maybe explore other gun options.
The first thing my wife packs in the Rv is that pump shotgun.
 
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Find a revolver and let her learn basics such as muzzle direction/control, etc with it unloaded. Then let her fire a few cylinders through it.

Once she's comfortable with that go ahead and teach her about how semi-autos work and how to properly load/unload a mag fed pistol. All the muzzle control and fundamentals she learned with the revolver still apply from a safety perspective, just a few more things to worry about with the mag fed gun.

Big thing to keep in mind is to use a fairly substantial sized gun with a lower power cartridge so she doesn't develop recoil anticipation issues. Worst thing you can do us give her an tiny carry gun right off the bat and have it jumping out of her hands due to it being so lightweight.
 
One of my adult daughters prefers a revolver.
The other carrys a stun gun due to location. NYC, Hi, now in Cali.
 
My wife and daughters were interested enough in shooting to become proficient at grabbing a 38 from the nightstand and hitting the right side of the room. They are all decent shots at the range, but none like it enough to practice. I tried suppressed, full auto, sbrs, etc, just not that interested.

Good luck, and remember that situational awareness is sufficient for more than 99% of potential encounters. Far better to have time to avoid than to be forced to engage.
 
I am a HUGE fan of starting new shooters off with .22LR. Personally I like for someone I know to personally to go through at least 1000 rds of .22 through a single firearm before moving to a different one. (usually a few days as my guns won't make 1k without cleaning)

Bolt action .22, semi-auto .22 rifle, .22lr pistol in that order if possible

If starting with a .22 semi-auto, I have them load a single round at a time for a long long time. To get used to the loading procedure, understand the "empty chamber gremlin" in semis (the one that tries to trick people into thinking the chamber is empty), be able to work on trigger finger and muzzle awareness, and other issues.

After 1k of .22 (takes a few days), the step up to 9mm is easy.

Starting even large males on 9mm ends up with horrible flinching and other bad habits.

People that are scared of AR15s love the lightweight S&W mini-AR15. After 20 mags, they realize an AR is louder and the recoil greater, but mostly notice the increase in weight of the gun. The recoil and noise aren't as big a deal.
 
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